Monday, May 14, 2012

No words

I really can not think of a good title for this post.  It is kinda sad.

Tonight Kenneth was telling me a story about a professor at seminary who has just recently adopted another child.  He was telling the story in front of the boys as they were playing.  The gist is that this child is about Noah and Aiden's age, but he was not being taken care of by the people he was living with.  They are not his biological family.  It seemed his physical needs were being met for the most part, but not emotional, etc.  So, he was adopted into a new family that he loves.

About 15 minutes later we were putting the boys to bed but having a little family wrestle "HI-YAH!!" fight in Aiden and Asa's room.  It was hilarious, by the way.  Even Nathan and Asa were kicking out their legs yelling "Hi-Yah!"  Of course, no one was hurt in the process.  The boys were cracking up.  Then Aiden, trying to be funny, said, "Hey!  We need a new Mommy!"  We could tell he was trying to joke because he had a smile on his face and was laughing.  Noah did not appreciate the joke.  Neither did I, to be honest.  Noah yelled, "That is not nice!  I want our Mommy."

Kenneth immediately told Aiden that that was not appropriate and it was hurtful.  I could see on his face that he was embarrassed.  He then tried to make up for this joke by making another one.  "Maybe we need a new Daddy."

That was it for Noah.
He ran into his room crying.
I had to go do damage control there.
Kenneth took care of damage control with Aiden.

Noah was beside himself crying.  Sobbing, "That was not nice of Aiden.  He was mean to you.  If he goes to a new family, I won't have him as a brother.  I won't have anyone to play games with.  I won't have anyone to play with."  He was so sad.
Although my heart broke for him, it kinda made me happy too.
Despite all the fighting all.the.time, Noah really does love his brother.  It proved to me how much he cares about Aiden.   And I must admit that it felt really good to have Noah protect me like that.

We finally brought Noah and Aiden together and had a little talk with Aiden.  We assured him that he is staying with us no matter what.  We are always going to be his mommy and daddy.  He will always be Noah's brother.

This adoption stuff can be so tough sometimes...